You are 12. You’re at the library looking for some generic young adult fiction novel about a girl who falls for her best friend. Your dad makes a disgusted face. “This is about lesbians,” he says. The word falls out of his mouth as though it pains him. You check out a different book and cry when you get home, but you aren’t sure why. You learn that this is not a story about you, and if it is, you are disgusting.

You are 15. Your relatives are fawning over your cousin’s new boyfriend. “When will you have a boyfriend?” they ask. You shrug. “Maybe she’s one of those lesbians,” your grandpa says. You don’t say anything. You learn that to find love and acceptance from your family, you need a boyfriend who thinks you are worthy of love and acceptance.

You are 18. Your first boyfriend demands to know why you never want to have sex with him. He tells you that sex is normal and healthy. You learn that something is wrong with you.

You are 13. You’re at a pool party with a relative’s friend’s daughter. “There’s this lesbian in my gym class. It’s so gross,” she says. “Ugh, that’s disgusting,” another girl adds. They ask you, “do you have any lesbians at your school?” You tell them no and they say you are lucky. You learn to stay away from people.

You are 20. You have coffee with a girl and you can’t stop thinking about her for days afterwards. You learn the difference between a new friendship and new feelings for a person.

You are 13. Your mom is watching a movie. You see two girls kiss on screen. You feel butterflies and this sense that you identify with the girls on the screen. Your mom gets up and covers the screen. You learn that if you are like those girls, no one wants to see it.

You are 20. You and your friends are drunk and your ex-boyfriend dares you to make out with your friend. You both agree. You touch her face. It feels soft and warm. Her lips are small and her hands feel soft on your back. You learn the difference between being attracted to someone and recognizing that someone you care about is attractive.

You are 16. You find lesbian porn online. Their eyes look dead and their bodies are positioned in a way that you had never imagined. You learn that liking girls is acceptable if straight men can decide the terms.

You are 20. You are lying next to a beautiful girl and talking about everything. You tell her things that you don’t usually tell anyone. You learn how it feels not to want to go to sleep because you don’t want to miss out on any time with someone.

You are 15. Your parents are talking about a celebrity. Your dad has a grin on his face and says, “her girlfriend says that she’s having the best sex of her life with her!” You learn that being a lesbian is about the kind of sex you have and not how you love.

You are 18. You are in intro to women’s and gender studies. “Not all feminists are lesbians- I love my husband! Most of the feminists on our leadership team are straight! It’s just a stereotype,” the professor exclaims. You learn that lesbianism is something to separate yourself from.

You are 21 and you are kissing a beautiful girl and she’s your girlfriend and you understand why people write songs and make movies and stupid facebook statuses about this and time around you just seems to stop and you could spend forever like this and you learn that there is nothing wrong with you and you are falling in love.

You are 21. And you are okay.

—a thing I wrote after arguing with an insensitive dude on facebook all day or Things Other People Taught me about Liking Girls (via squidterritory)

(Source: thesefirstfewdesperatehours, via thebookdoctor)

katrosenfield:

bees-knees:

annanacho:

population-e:

always-hangry:

imnotthatkindofgirl:

via psychophancy:
Beautiful. Lovely. Whore.
Well okay then.

beautiful funny whore. perfect.

beautiful. broken. clutz. that’s about right.

lovelybrokenwhore.tumblr.com

Lovely Beautiful Sad :|.
K.

Funny, and then fat, and then… uh, fat. Again. In a totally different location. Are we sure this test isn’t supposed to describe things people called you in high school?

Love. Whore. Plop. :)

katrosenfield:

bees-knees:

annanacho:

population-e:

always-hangry:

imnotthatkindofgirl:

via psychophancy:

Beautiful. Lovely. Whore.

Well okay then.

beautiful funny whore. perfect.

beautiful. broken. clutz. that’s about right.

lovelybrokenwhore.tumblr.com

Lovely Beautiful Sad :|.

K.

Funny, and then fat, and then… uh, fat. Again. In a totally different location. Are we sure this test isn’t supposed to describe things people called you in high school?

Love. Whore. Plop. :)

(Source: feellng)

Anonymous asked: Hey Shychemist. I've been following your blog for awhile and I want to bring up something that seems dated but nonetheless holds to be accurate today. I feel like the girls who consider themselves to be on the science side of tumblr to be horribly mistaken. It's statistically proven that women applicants struggle to get into stem doctorate programs, and rightfully so, they don't belong there. examples- atomic-o-licious, brainsx , adventuresinchemistry, i can't fit anymore but you get it

bethrevis:

meaganspooner:

lbardugo:

katsudonburi:

ecumenicalseeker:

hannahoort:

astropheminism:

nonlinearfluctuations:

chemistry-of-chaos:

dinostuck:

scientistsarepeopletoo:

adventuresinchemistry:

smilesandvials:

shychemist:

It doesn’t seem dated, your attitude is dated. This is the 21st century.

Women deserve to be in STEM programs just as much as men. I’d wager they deserve to succeed in the Sciences even more than men because of the sexism and misogyny they experience.

They struggle to get in because they’re the minority, and a lot of people who could admit them are sexist (regardless of gender) because of the society they grew up in. Its not through any intellectual weakness. These women are amazing and just as smart as the men in their fields.

You have no right to say these things to these amazing women, many of whom I consider to be friends.

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Wow. That seems like really fucking wrong. And offensive.
And I would love to take some more time out of my day to be pissed about it.
But…
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It seems that I have a lot of fucking science to do. 
So, uh, screw that.
If anybody needs me, me and my lady bits will be getting some fucking science done.

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I’m oddly excited to have been name checked by this shitty anon. Because it means that the very fact that I got into an Ivy League, top 15 science PhD program (where I fucking belong) is a giant fuck you to shitty anon. Also, shitty anons make Lewis sad. Because Lewis is a feminists science hippo.

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imageBest way for me to deal with shitty nonnies who think women can’t do science? DO MORE SCIENCE!!!! MWAHAHAHA

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Crap, I’m a woman biologist. I’d go get another career but I have a groundbreaking thesis on rapid evolution of reproductive isolation between seed beetle populations to finish. 

I’m not a well-known tumblr scientist…but I am a scientist all the same. And while I could probably obtain a more gender-appropriate occupation… I’m pretty content with the fact I’m an atmospheric chemist Additionally, I am also one of the few women who have managed to be selected to intern at NASA’s airborne research program. 

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Do I not deserve a place in the STEM fields, anon? 

Hey ladies! Mind if some physicists join in?

At the CERN visiting the CMS part of the LHC where were were working for 8 months on both computational and experimental work:

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Presenting our research at a conference on Physics of Living Systems:
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And visiting the Wind Tunnel experiment after presenting our research at Max Planck Institute at a Advances in Cardiac Dynamics Workshop

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Oh, me? What do I do? I try to understand why superbursts happen in neutron stars! This is important because: they shouldn’t happen but they do. And the implications could be astoundingly helpful for things like, oh I don’t know, nuclear fusion.

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Oh, just me, at a conference after presenting this:

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"don’t belong there"?! excuse you! 
Im not a science tumblr but i am a girl and a geologist so i kinda prove you wrong…?

In the Sorbas Basin finding fossilised bird trackways and fossilised rain drops
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Using HCl to dissolve solnhofen plattenkalk (limestones) to make plastic copies of exceptional fossils  

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On board the HMS Discovery, a state of the art scientific ship which anchors at the NOC (national oceanography centre Southampton)

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Doing some geological mapping and fieldwork in Ingleton Yorkshire

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So yeh anon, you’re wrong and very very very outdated in your opinions 

oh wow this anon thinks that women don’t belong in STEM—

better throw my archaeology B.A. in the trash, burn my thesis and stop teaching biology, chemistry and physics to the 8-12th grades.

OH WAIT
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I’ve got image 

SCIENCE TO DO

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NO TIME FOR SEXIST MAN CHILD ANONS

oh I guess I should burn the cheque I got for guest lecturing in grad school too—

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Sorry, no time to answer douchey anon. To busy getting paid handsomely to do research things like this

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While dressed fabulously like this

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Because unlike the bullshit movies would tell you, geologists don’t wear white lab coats. Something to do with all that dirt. 

I’d tell my grad school and all the funding bodies that gave me a fellowship and research grants that they were totally mistaken because girls don’t science well except OOPS ALREADY GOT MY MS IN GEOLOGY, TOO LATE. 

Well darn. Guess I better just get back to doing science instead.

It just gets better and better and better.

Can we also send this to the morons who say women don’t like science fiction because they can’t understand it?

We should totally send this to those same morons. 

I should be shocked by these dumbass statements about women in science…

But I’m too busy sending my NY Times & international bestselling science fiction novel into space. [video] And you know, writing more of them.

timeandinbetween:

My new favorite children’s book. If you’re a teacher, or a parent, you HAVE to pick this book up. #thedaythecrayonsquit #books

timeandinbetween:

My new favorite children’s book. If you’re a teacher, or a parent, you HAVE to pick this book up. #thedaythecrayonsquit #books

(via books-cupcakes)

crystaltokyogorepolice:


teenagemutantnegroturtle:

ask-aphsiberia:

mr-pond-parties-in-the-impala:

cosbyykidd:

It’s worked for white people, I figured I might as well give it a shot.

GET THIS GUY TO DISNEY WORLD DAMN IT

I want you to go man!

if this was a white girl this would have had the notes 3 weeks ago

People are sending him racist messages telling him it’s not gonna happen and he doesn’t belong in Disney World over this post. So we’re gonna reblog it even more.


^ REBLOG REBLOG REBLOG

crystaltokyogorepolice:

teenagemutantnegroturtle:

ask-aphsiberia:

mr-pond-parties-in-the-impala:

cosbyykidd:

It’s worked for white people, I figured I might as well give it a shot.

GET THIS GUY TO DISNEY WORLD DAMN IT

I want you to go man!

if this was a white girl this would have had the notes 3 weeks ago

People are sending him racist messages telling him it’s not gonna happen and he doesn’t belong in Disney World over this post. So we’re gonna reblog it even more.

^ REBLOG REBLOG REBLOG

(via justabagel)